spiritual bypass?

[bluppy]

Ada yang bisa menjelaskan definisi spriritual bypass?
udah cari2 di internet tapi masih agak bingung

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Spiritual bypassing, a term first coined by psychologist John Welwood in 1984, is the use of spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid dealing with our painful feelings, unresolved wounds, and developmental needs. It is much more common than we might think and, in fact, is so pervasive as to go largely unnoticed, except in its more obvious extremes.

I have worked with many clients who described themselves as being on a spiritual path, particularly as meditators. Most were preoccupied, at least initially, with being nice, trying to be positive and nonjudgmental, while impaling themselves on various spiritual "shoulds," such as "I should not show anger" or "I should be more loving" or "I should be more open after all the time I've put into my spiritual practice." Fleeing their darker (or "less spiritual") emotions, impulses, and intentions, they had, to varying degrees, trapped themselves within the very practices and beliefs that they had hoped might liberate them, or at least make them feel better.

Spiritual bypassing is a very persistent shadow of spirituality, manifesting in many forms, often without being acknowledged as such. Aspects of spiritual bypassing include :
exaggerated detachment,
emotional numbing and repression,
overemphasis on the positive,
anger-phobia,
blind or overly tolerant compassion,
weak or too porous boundaries,
lopsided development (cognitive intelligence often being far ahead of emotional and moral intelligence),
debilitating judgment about one's negativity or shadow side,
devaluation of the personal relative to the spiritual,
and delusions of having arrived at a higher level of being.

bagian dari article
Copyright © 2010 by Robert Masters. Reprinted by permission of publisher. http://www.realitysandwich.com/spiritual_bypassing

[bluppy]

yang sangat menarik perhatian saya dari isi videonya
spiritual bypass menyangkut:
misused of compassion
demonizing of anger
confrontation phobia
shame
premature transcendence
getting really negative about our negativity

Buku berjudul "spiritual bypassing"
This is more for people that are
realizing that despite all the spiritual practices they're doing
they still aren't changing things in their life.
There's something that not quite all fit in together

[bluppy]

terus apakah bedanya spiritual bypass
dengan spiritual addiction?

pertanyaan yg ngk ringan2 banget for the weekend
moga2 ada yang kasih input yag. thanks 
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Spiritual Addiction
by Adyashanti

A spiritual person can become addicted to spiritual highs and miss the experience of Truth. Spiritual addiction occurs when something great happens and it feels as if you have received a hit of a great drug. As soon as you have it, you want more. There is no drug more potent than spiritual experience. The intellectual component of this addiction is the belief that if you just had enough of these experiences, you would feel great all the time. It's like morphine. You get a hit of it in the hospital because you break your arm, and you think, "If I had a little drip going all the time, life would be relatively pleasant no matter what happens." Spiritual experiences often become like this, and the mind puts them into its familiar pattern, thinking, "If I had this experience all the time, that would be freedom."

Soon you find that your condition is not much better than that of a common drunk, except that drunks know they have a problem because it's not culturally acceptable to be a drunk. The spiritual person is very certain that there is no problem, that his or her inebriation is unlike the other forms of inebriation, and the whole point is to be spiritually inebriated forever. That's the mindset of an addict: "I got it and I lost it. I need it. I don't have it."

In our culture, with most kinds of addiction, the addict is understood to be miserable. But not in the spiritual world. The seeker is told that spiritual addiction is different from all the other addictions. You're not a junkie. You're a spiritual seeker.
This problem will last as long as there is something in you that holds out some hope for the high experience. When that begins to break down, you start to see that pleasant, wonderful, and uplifting experiences are somewhat like very pleasant and uplifting alcohol binges. They feel great for a short time, and then there is an equal and opposite reaction. The spiritual high is followed by a spiritual low. I have seen this in many students.

Once these high and low experiences have played themselves out for a long enough period of time, it starts to dawn on you that maybe the high spiritual experience is just a pendulum swing followed by a low experience. At some point, you may have an ordinary moment and get on to the fact that these pendulum swings are equal and opposite reactions. You realize it's impossible to sustain one part of the pendulum swing because its nature is to move back and forth. There's no way you are going to pin that pendulum to any one point. 

http://www.ofspirit.com/adyashanti1.htm

[andry]

apakah ada semacam technique?

[bluppy]

apakah ada semacam technique?

ha, teknik apaan?

kalo dari pengertian saya yg masih tebak2 an,
spiritual bypass itu seperti
ketika menghadapi suatu masalah
seseorang menghindarinya dengan meditasi
mencari ketenangan dan kedamaian dalam meditasi
tapi tidak berusaha menyelesaikan masalah itu

dan menyukai pengalaman yg menyenangkan
pengalaman kedamaian, ketentraman, konsentrasi
tapi melewatkan (bypass) kemarahan, negativitas

[hemayanti]

ikut nyimak ya cc. 
lagi pada pegi malam mingguan mungkin, jadi masih sunyi.
saya ijin nongkrong disini ya cc. 

[bluppy]

ikut nyimak ya cc. 
lagi pada pegi malam mingguan mungkin, jadi masih sunyi.
saya ijin nongkrong disini ya cc. 

silahkan...
asyik ada yg nongkrong bareng 

[bluppy]

kalo pagi, siang malam
pengennya browsing DC terus
itu termasuk addicted to DC ngk?
termasuk spiritual addiction ngk yag?

terus kalo memang addiction,
gimana caranya mengatasi ?
apakah perlu menahan keinginan untuk buka DC terus?

[bond]

kalo pagi, siang malam
pengennya browsing DC terus
itu termasuk addicted to DC ngk?
termasuk spiritual addiction ngk yag?

terus kalo memang addiction,
gimana caranya mengatasi ?
apakah perlu menahan keinginan untuk buka DC terus?

Itu sudah addiction, cara mengatasinya danakan saja semua perangkat komputernya ke saya. 

[andry]

ha, teknik apaan?

kalo dari pengertian saya yg masih tebak2 an,
spiritual bypass itu seperti
ketika menghadapi suatu masalah
seseorang menghindarinya dengan meditasi
mencari ketenangan dan kedamaian dalam meditasi
tapi tidak berusaha menyelesaikan masalah itu

dan menyukai pengalaman yg menyenangkan
pengalaman kedamaian, ketentraman, konsentrasi
tapi melewatkan (bypass) kemarahan, negativitas

dan walau bagaimana pun, pola itu akan berulang terus
sampai memahaminya. baru akan tercipta suatu pola pandang baru terhadap pola2 yg sama atau pola2 variasi an nya.

[tesla]

just like 'let it go'?

[bluppy]

just like 'let it go'?

sorry saya telmi
maksudnya apa yag?

[hemayanti]

sepertinya "let it go" itu identik dengan istilahnya Ajahn Brahm, kalo g salah juga pernah baca di buku si cacing 2.
pemahaman saya, istilah ini sama dengan istilah sebelumnya "biarkan berlalu"

[bluppy]

sepertinya "let it go" itu identik dengan istilahnya Ajahn Brahm, kalo g salah juga pernah baca di buku si cacing 2.
pemahaman saya, istilah ini sama dengan istilah sebelumnya "biarkan berlalu"

iya, tapi saya belum ngerti
hubungannya "let it go" dengan "spiritual bypass" ?

[dhammadinna]

Ada yang bisa menjelaskan definisi spriritual bypass?
udah cari2 di internet tapi masih agak bingung
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Sebagian meditator memiliki pola pikir tentang "bagaimana seorang meditator itu seharusnya".

Maksudnya, seseorang mungkin berpikir bahwa seorang meditator seharusnya adalah sosok yang tenang, selalu positif, tidak mudah marah, dll. Lalu karena ia menganggap bahwa ia juga meditator, maka ia berusaha menjadi demikian juga. Dia mengingkari hal-hal negatif yang sebenarnya ada, atau menekan hal-hal negatif itu dengan cara yang salah.

Intinya, karena adanya sindrom "Meditator Wanna Be", ia mengingkari atau tidak mau melihat bagian dari dirinya yang tidak sempurna.