Do You Have Time to Love?
The greatest gift you can offer loved ones is your true presence.
BY: Thich Nhat Hanh
From "True Love" by Thich Nhat Hanh, © 2004. Reprinted by arrangement with Shambhala Publications, Inc.
To love, in the context of Buddhism, is above all to be there. But
being there is not an easy thing. Some training is necessary, some
practice. If you are not there, how can you love? Being there is very
much an art, the art of meditation, because meditating is bringing your
true presence to the here and now. The question that arises is: Do you
have time to love?
I know a boy of twelve whose father asked him
one day: "Son, what would you like for your birthday present?" The boy
did not know how to answer his father, who was a very rich man, able to
buy anything for his son. But the boy did not want anything except his
father's presence. Because the role the father played kept him very
busy, he did not have time to devote to his wife and children. Being
rich is an obstacle to loving, When you are rich, you want to continue
to be rich, and so you end up devoting all your time, all your energy
in your daily life, to staying rich. If this father were to understand
what true love is, he would do whatever is necessary to find time for
his son and his wife.
The most precious gift you can give to the
one you love is your true presence. What must we do to really be there?
Those who have practiced Buddhist meditation know that meditating is
above all being present: to yourself, to those you love, to life.
So I would propose a very simple practice to
you, the practice of mindful breathing: "Breathing-- I know that I am
breathing in; breathing--I know that I am breathing out." If you do
that with a little concentration, then you will be able to really be
there, because in our daily life our mind and our body are rarely
together. Our body might be there, but our mind is somewhere else.
Maybe you are lost in regrets about the past, maybe in worries about
the future, or else you are preoccupied with your plans, with anger or
with jealousy. And so your mind is not really there with your body.
Between the mind and the body, there is
something that can serve as a bridge. The moment you begin to practice
mindful breathing, your body and your mind begin to come together with
one another. It takes only 10 to 20 seconds to accomplish this miracle
called oneness of body and mind. With mindful breathing, you can bring
body and mind together in the present moment, and every one of us can
do it, even a child.
The Buddha left us an absolutely essential
text, the Anapanasati Sutta, or Discourse on the Practice of Mindful
Breathing. If you really want to practice Buddhist meditation, you must
study this text.
If the father I was talking about had known
that, he would have begun to breathe in and breathe out mindfully, and
then one or two minutes later, he would have approached his son, he
would have looked at him with a smile, and he would have said this: "My
dear, I am here for you." This is the greatest gift you can give to
someone you love.
In Buddhism we talk about mantras. A mantra
is a magic formula that, once it is uttered, can entirely change a
situation, our mind, our body, or a person. But this magic formula must
be spoken in a state of concentration, that is to say, a state in which
body and mind are absolutely in a state of unity. What you say then, in
this state of being, becomes a mantra.
So I am going to present to you a very
effective mantra, not in Sanskrit or Tibetan, but in English: "Dear
one, I am here for you." Perhaps this evening you will try for a few
minutes to practice mindful breathing in order to bring your body and
mind together. You will approach the person you love and with this
mindfulness, with this concentration, you will look into his or her
eyes, and you will begin to utter this formula: "Dear one, I am really
here for you." You must say that with your body and with your mind at
the same time, and then you will see the transformation.
Do you have enough time to love? Can you make
sure that in your everyday life you have a little time to love? We do
not have much time together; we are too busy. In the morning while
eating breakfast, we do not look at the person we love, we do not have
enough time for it. We eat very quickly while thinking about other
things, and sometimes we even hold a newspaper that hides the face of
the person we love. In the evening when we come home, we are too tired
to be able to look at the person we love.
We must bring about a revolution in our way
of living our everyday lives, because our happiness, our lives, are
within ourselves.
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