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Waroeng English / [article] What to do when mom or dad doesn't recognize you
« on: 25 November 2008, 11:22:39 PM »
source: http://edition.cnn.com/2008/HEALTH/family/11/25/family.thanksgiving.alzheimers/index.html
(CNN) -- On Thanksgiving, millions of Americans will see the changes a year makes in their family -- how the children have grown, how relatives have aged.
Engage the person who has Alzheimer's in conversations even if they don't seem to respond, experts say.
Some will encounter elderly relatives who have Alzheimer's disease, a condition that affects 4.5 million Americans.
For many, it's an awkward trip where they don't know what to do or say. Facing the changes that accompany the disease can be devastating.
As the disease progresses, the essence of a person -- memories and traits -- fades as brain cells deteriorate. Unusual behaviors arise, moods inexplicably vacillate from anger to paranoia, and lapses in people's memories become more apparent. This can cause a person to forget his or her children. It's a prospect Karen McKeever, whose mother has Alzheimer's disease, dreads.
"I don't even want to think about that," she said. "I know it's coming.... There are things I don't want to recognize or face."
Experts say it's normal to feel sad, abandoned or even angry when a person with Alzheimer's forgets memories and loved ones. Talk about your feelings and keep in mind it's not personal, but the effects of the disease, said Beth Kallmyer, licensed clinical social worker.
Thanksgiving is also an opportunity to look for symptoms among older relatives. While there is no cure for Alzheimer's, early detection can improve the quality of life for people affected.
Clues include odd or unusual behavior or details of a family tradition that's suddenly absent. About two years ago, McKeever and her four siblings realized their mother, Anne Goins, was repeating the same story to each of them, almost every 20 minutes.
On the advice of a friend, McKeever took her mother to a gerontologist. The diagnosis was the early stages of Alzheimer's disease.
"To have someone who is so independent, who takes care of herself, who is such a social person, it's hard to see her go through losing her independence. The fact that she forgets, that's the biggest thing I struggle with," McKeever said.
Small clues, like mismatched buttons or a house being more of a mess than usual, may be an indication of memory problems, said Eric Hall, the president and CEO of Alzheimer's Foundation of America.
"There might be hesitancy and awkwardness or trying to cover up a lack of knowledge or things they've forgotten," he said. "People will spend an enormous amount of energy trying to cover up. You can pick that up in their uneasiness and their language."
Keep in mind that memory loss is not always Alzheimer's disease -- it could be issues related to stress or vitamin deficiency, he said.
Experts gave advice about interacting with a person in advanced stages of the disease.
What if the person who has Alzheimer's disease doesn't remember who I am?
Well-meaning friends and family often pepper the patient with the question: "Do you know who I am?"
"That's obnoxious -- you want to avoid that," said Kallmyer, director of client services at the Alzheimer's Association.
Rather than quizzing someone's memory, she recommends introducing yourself with something like, "I'm John, your son" and other relatives by saying, "Here's my wife, Jane." Be reassuring, hold their hands, and smile and remind them who you are.
Rather than trying to figure out what the person remembers, reassure them by calling them by their name, Kallmyer said.
The loved one no longer recognizes me. What do I do?
After realizing that the person no longer recognizes his or her loved ones, some visitors are at a loss for words or feel apprehensive. Hall recommends having a conversation, even if that person seems unresponsive.
"We become uncomfortable doing all the talking," he said."Continuing to talk to them is an important piece. It's awkward for us, but if we stay engaged, it means a lot to them."
Although the patient may not have memory, he or she still has emotions and the ability to pick up vibes and read body language. Use the person's name, maintain eye contact and speak slowly, Hall suggested. Ask one open-ended question at a time, giving adequate time to respond.
He calls it the 4S's for communicating: simple, slow, show and smile.
"Simple sentences are much appreciated by someone with Alzheimer's," Hall said. "Say it slow to allow enough time to capture words or questions. Show what you're saying, using facial expressions, body language and gesturing. And smile -- it goes a long way."
What should I do if he or she keeps asking me the same question?
This is common for people with Alzheimer's, Hall said.
"The problem is that they cannot remember your response. Instead of answering the question a second or third time, reassure the individual that everything is fine," he said.
The patient may not be able to remember or process the answer, so they repeat the same question almost 20 to 40 times a day.
"Our first instinct is to answer the question," Hall said. "We're under the assumption that the other person gets it. But in this regard, it's not happening. Instead of becoming frustrated, smile and give an assurance everything is fine and sort of move on."
What are some habits to avoid?
One misconception is that amplifying their voice will somehow make it easier for the patient to understand.
"People talk loud, they just assume they have a hearing problem," Kallmyer said. "It's obviously annoying. They can hear OK. You don't need to scream at them. You don't want to patronize them. The biggest thing I can say is slow it down and give them time to answer."
If a conversation topic seems to confuse the person, move on to a different subject. If the person with Alzheimer's says something that's incorrect, resist the urge to correct them.
"When you're correcting someone, it agitates them," Kallmyer said. "It's our nature, you want to correct someone when they've got something wrong, but it doesn't matter."
(CNN) -- On Thanksgiving, millions of Americans will see the changes a year makes in their family -- how the children have grown, how relatives have aged.
Engage the person who has Alzheimer's in conversations even if they don't seem to respond, experts say.
Some will encounter elderly relatives who have Alzheimer's disease, a condition that affects 4.5 million Americans.
For many, it's an awkward trip where they don't know what to do or say. Facing the changes that accompany the disease can be devastating.
As the disease progresses, the essence of a person -- memories and traits -- fades as brain cells deteriorate. Unusual behaviors arise, moods inexplicably vacillate from anger to paranoia, and lapses in people's memories become more apparent. This can cause a person to forget his or her children. It's a prospect Karen McKeever, whose mother has Alzheimer's disease, dreads.
"I don't even want to think about that," she said. "I know it's coming.... There are things I don't want to recognize or face."
Experts say it's normal to feel sad, abandoned or even angry when a person with Alzheimer's forgets memories and loved ones. Talk about your feelings and keep in mind it's not personal, but the effects of the disease, said Beth Kallmyer, licensed clinical social worker.
Thanksgiving is also an opportunity to look for symptoms among older relatives. While there is no cure for Alzheimer's, early detection can improve the quality of life for people affected.
Clues include odd or unusual behavior or details of a family tradition that's suddenly absent. About two years ago, McKeever and her four siblings realized their mother, Anne Goins, was repeating the same story to each of them, almost every 20 minutes.
On the advice of a friend, McKeever took her mother to a gerontologist. The diagnosis was the early stages of Alzheimer's disease.
"To have someone who is so independent, who takes care of herself, who is such a social person, it's hard to see her go through losing her independence. The fact that she forgets, that's the biggest thing I struggle with," McKeever said.
Small clues, like mismatched buttons or a house being more of a mess than usual, may be an indication of memory problems, said Eric Hall, the president and CEO of Alzheimer's Foundation of America.
"There might be hesitancy and awkwardness or trying to cover up a lack of knowledge or things they've forgotten," he said. "People will spend an enormous amount of energy trying to cover up. You can pick that up in their uneasiness and their language."
Keep in mind that memory loss is not always Alzheimer's disease -- it could be issues related to stress or vitamin deficiency, he said.
Experts gave advice about interacting with a person in advanced stages of the disease.
What if the person who has Alzheimer's disease doesn't remember who I am?
Well-meaning friends and family often pepper the patient with the question: "Do you know who I am?"
"That's obnoxious -- you want to avoid that," said Kallmyer, director of client services at the Alzheimer's Association.
Rather than quizzing someone's memory, she recommends introducing yourself with something like, "I'm John, your son" and other relatives by saying, "Here's my wife, Jane." Be reassuring, hold their hands, and smile and remind them who you are.
Rather than trying to figure out what the person remembers, reassure them by calling them by their name, Kallmyer said.
The loved one no longer recognizes me. What do I do?
After realizing that the person no longer recognizes his or her loved ones, some visitors are at a loss for words or feel apprehensive. Hall recommends having a conversation, even if that person seems unresponsive.
"We become uncomfortable doing all the talking," he said."Continuing to talk to them is an important piece. It's awkward for us, but if we stay engaged, it means a lot to them."
Although the patient may not have memory, he or she still has emotions and the ability to pick up vibes and read body language. Use the person's name, maintain eye contact and speak slowly, Hall suggested. Ask one open-ended question at a time, giving adequate time to respond.
He calls it the 4S's for communicating: simple, slow, show and smile.
"Simple sentences are much appreciated by someone with Alzheimer's," Hall said. "Say it slow to allow enough time to capture words or questions. Show what you're saying, using facial expressions, body language and gesturing. And smile -- it goes a long way."
What should I do if he or she keeps asking me the same question?
This is common for people with Alzheimer's, Hall said.
"The problem is that they cannot remember your response. Instead of answering the question a second or third time, reassure the individual that everything is fine," he said.
The patient may not be able to remember or process the answer, so they repeat the same question almost 20 to 40 times a day.
"Our first instinct is to answer the question," Hall said. "We're under the assumption that the other person gets it. But in this regard, it's not happening. Instead of becoming frustrated, smile and give an assurance everything is fine and sort of move on."
What are some habits to avoid?
One misconception is that amplifying their voice will somehow make it easier for the patient to understand.
"People talk loud, they just assume they have a hearing problem," Kallmyer said. "It's obviously annoying. They can hear OK. You don't need to scream at them. You don't want to patronize them. The biggest thing I can say is slow it down and give them time to answer."
If a conversation topic seems to confuse the person, move on to a different subject. If the person with Alzheimer's says something that's incorrect, resist the urge to correct them.
"When you're correcting someone, it agitates them," Kallmyer said. "It's our nature, you want to correct someone when they've got something wrong, but it doesn't matter."
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Pojok Seni / [youtube] Amazing Sungha Jung
« on: 13 November 2008, 12:29:39 AM »
kebetulan browsing di youtube dan nemu anak kecil jago main gitas akustik..
namanya Sungha Jung salut..
beberapa lagu yang mantep.. enjoy..
More than Words
Canon in D
Canon - with Trace Bundy
Mission Impossible
No Woman No Cry
namanya Sungha Jung salut..
beberapa lagu yang mantep.. enjoy..
More than Words
Canon in D
Canon - with Trace Bundy
Mission Impossible
No Woman No Cry
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Waroeng Mandarin / ??? - yáo lán q? - Cradle Song
« on: 08 November 2008, 12:59:19 PM »搖籃曲 - yáo lán qū - Cradle Song
- 動力火車 (dòng lì huŏ chē)
(Traditional)
* 親愛寶貝快快要入睡
我是你最溫暖的安慰
爸爸輕輕守在你身邊
你別怕黑夜
# 我的寶貝不要再流淚
你要學著努力不怕黑
未來你要自己去面對
生命中的夜
寶寶睡好好的入睡
爸爸永遠陪在你身邊
喜悅和傷悲
不要害怕面對
勇敢我寶貝
* # * # *
守護淚一夜
(Simplified)
*亲爱宝贝快快要入睡
我是你最温暖的安慰
爸爸轻轻守在你身边
你别怕黑夜
#我的宝贝不要再流泪
你要学着努力不怕黑
未来你要自己去面对
生命中的夜
宝宝睡好好的入睡
爸爸永远陪在你身边
喜悦和伤悲
不要害怕面对
勇敢我宝贝
* # * # *
守护泪一夜
(HanYu PinYin)
* qīn ài bǎo bèi kuài kuài yào rù shuì
wŏ shì nǐ zuì wēn nuǎn de ān wèi
bà bà qīng qīng shŏu zài nǐ shēn biān
nǐ bié pà hēi yè
# wŏ de bǎo bèi bù yào zài liú lèi
nǐ yào xué zhe nŭ lì bù pà hēi
wèi lái nǐ yào zì jǐ qù miàn duì
shēng mìng zhòng de yè
bǎo bǎo shuì hǎo hǎo de rù shuì
bà bà yŏng yuǎn péi zài nǐ shēn biān
xǐ yuè hé shāng bēi
bù yào hài pà miàn duì
yŏng gǎn wŏ bǎo bèi
* # * # *
shŏu hù lèi yī yè
(arti)
* dear darling cepatlah tidur
saya adalah rasa nyamanmu yang paling hangat
papa dengan lembut menjaga di sampingmu
kamu jangan takut terhadap malam yang gelap
# my darling jangan lagi meneteskan air mata
kamu harus berusaha keras untuk tidak takut dengan kegelapan
masa depan harus kamu hadapi sendiri
kehidupan di tengah malam
darling tidurlah, tidurlah dengan baik
papa selalu menjagamu di samping
bahagia dan menderita
jangan takut untuk dihadapi
beranilah my darling
* # * # *
menjaga air mata semalaman
NOTE: darling bisa berarti baby (= bayi)
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Humor / [pics] gambar humor gado2
« on: 25 October 2008, 03:22:35 PM »
gampang kalo mau cek Felix Teroris ada di mana..
alat ramalan cuaca murah meriah..
sekarang zaman sudah berubah, cermin ngga laku..
harga BBM mahal, jadi duit ngga cukup buat ongkos tamasya..
logo WB terbaru neh..
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Kafe Jongkok / [pics] gaun pengantin terbuat dari toilet paper
« on: 13 October 2008, 11:50:08 PM »
cuma satu syaratnya kalo pake gaun kayak ini.. jangan sampe kehujanan..
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Waroeng Mandarin / ??? - xi?ng tài du? - Think Too Much
« on: 11 October 2008, 10:51:09 PM »想太多 - xiǎng tài duō - Think Too Much
- Nicky Lee (李玖哲 / lǐ jiǔ zhé)
(Traditional)
你笑著說
他是朋友
但你眼中太溫柔
我的不安
那麼沉重
只有你不懂
* 他霸佔了你的心中
屬於我的角落
所以你說
我們不是你和我
# 是我想太多
你總這樣說
但你卻沒有
真的心疼我
是我想太多
我也這樣說
這是唯一能
安慰我的理由
* #
我想我沒有
錯怪了什麼
雖然你不說
或許錯在我
太晚我才懂
愛了你太多
#
(Simplified)
你笑着说
他是朋友
但你眼中太温柔
我的不安
那么沉重
只有你不懂
* 他霸占了你的心中
属于我的角落
所以你说
我们不是你和我
# 是我想太多
你总这样说
但你却没有
真的心疼我
是我想太多
我也这样说
这是唯一能
安慰我的理由
* #
我想我没有
错怪了什么
虽然你不说
或许错在我
太晚我才懂
爱了你太多
#
(HanYu PinYin)
nǐ xiào zhe shuō
tā shì péng yŏu
dàn nǐ yǎn zhōng tài wēn róu
wŏ de bù ān
nà me chén zhòng
zhǐ yŏu nǐ bù dŏng
* tā bà zhàn le nǐ de xīn zhōng
shŭ yú wŏ de jiǎo luò
suŏ yǐ nǐ shuō
wŏ men bù shì nǐ hé wŏ
# shì wŏ xiǎng tài duō
nǐ zŏng zhè yàng shuō
dàn nǐ què méi yŏu
zhēn de xīn téng wŏ
shì wŏ xiǎng tài duō
wŏ yĕ zhè yàng shuō
zhè shì wéi yī néng
ān wèi wŏ de lǐ yóu
* #
wŏ xiǎng wŏ méi yŏu
cuò guài le shén me
suī rán nǐ bù shuō
huò xŭ cuò zài wŏ
tài wǎn wŏ cái dŏng
ài le nǐ tài duō
#
(arti)
kamu tersenyum sambil berkata
dia adalah teman
tetapi kamu terlalu lembut di mataku
saya khawatir
sangat serius
hanya saja kamu tidak mengerti
* dia telah menguasai hatimu dengan paksa
saya tersisih
sehingga kamu berkata
"kita" bukanlah kamu dan saya
# sayalah yang terlalu banyak berpikir,
kamu selalu berkata demikian
tetapi kamu tidak kembali
sungguh sakit hatiku
sayalah yang terlalu banyak berpikir,
saya juga berkata demikian
mungkin ini hanyalah satu
alasan untuk menenangkan diriku
* #
saya pikir saya tidak punya
kesalahan apapun
tetapi kamu terdiam
mungkin kesalahan ada pada saya
sudah terlambat, saya baru mengerti
sudah terlalu mencintaimu
#
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Kafe Jongkok / siapa yg mencontek siapa? =P
« on: 04 October 2008, 05:37:30 PM »
kayaknya hampir semua pernah denger lagu ini kan?
kalo lagu ini?
kalo yang ini?
sebetulnya siapa yang mencontek siapa?
kalo lagu ini?
kalo yang ini?
sebetulnya siapa yang mencontek siapa?
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Kafe Jongkok / [pics] sudah saatnya berhenti mabok kalo ngga mau jadi begini..
« on: 30 September 2008, 12:24:44 AM »
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Waroeng Mandarin / ??? - zh?n x?n huà - Sincere Words
« on: 28 September 2008, 02:46:19 PM »真心話 - zhēn xīn huà - Sincere Words
- Peter Ho (何潤東 / hé rùn dōng)
(Traditional)
早晨醒來身上沾了顏料
而畫筆還握得很緊很牢
陽光中妳仍靜靜悄悄
在畫板上看著我微笑
幾乎每天夢到散著步和妳聊
有一種幸福和美好
我感覺得到
卻捕捉不到
有時候讓情緒很糟
感動明明塞滿胸口
卻說不明白
我愛得多麼澎湃
只願妳能看得出來
喜歡妳想愛妳想說真心話
我只有深情
但請妳收下
我只有癡狂
卻不懂得方法
把我心裡想的懷裡
有的清楚讓妳看吧
喜歡妳想愛妳想說真心話
路也許還長
但愛已出發
我也許太傻
卻一點也不假
會永遠體貼永遠守約
妳肯讓我愛妳嗎
(回到第一行)
喜歡妳想愛妳想說真心話
路也許還長
但愛已出發
我也許太傻
卻一點也不假
想看著妳鬧陪著妳笑
讓我愛妳吧
(Simplified)
早晨醒来身上沾了颜料
而画笔还握得很紧很牢
阳光中妳仍静静悄悄
在画板上看着我微笑
几乎每天梦到散着步和妳聊
有一种幸福和美好
我感觉得到
却捕捉不到
有时候让情绪很糟
感动明明塞满胸口
却说不明白
我爱得多么澎湃
只愿妳能看得出来
喜欢妳想爱妳想说真心话
我只有深情
但请妳收下
我只有痴狂
却不懂得方法
把我心里想的怀里
有的清楚让妳看吧
喜欢妳想爱妳想说真心话
路也许还长
但爱已出发
我也许太傻
却一点也不假
会永远体贴永远守约
妳肯让我爱妳吗
(回到第一行)
喜欢妳想爱妳想说真心话
路也许还长
但爱已出发
我也许太傻
却一点也不假
想看着妳闹陪着妳笑
让我爱妳吧
(HanYu PinYin)
zǎo chén xǐng lái shēn shàng zhān le yán liào
ér huà bǐ hái wò de hĕn jǐn hĕn láo
yáng guāng zhōng nǐ réng jìng jìng qiǎo qiǎo
zài huà bǎn shàng kàn zhe wŏ wēi xiào
jī hū mĕi tiān mèng dào sàn zhe bù hè nǐ liáo
yŏu yī zhŏng xìng fú hè mĕi hǎo
wŏ gǎn jué de dào
què bŭ zhuō bù dào
yŏu shí hòu ràng qíng xù hĕn zāo
gǎn dòng míng míng sāi mǎn xiōng kŏu
què shuō bù míng bái
wŏ ài de duō me péng pài
zhǐ yuàn nǐ néng kàn de chū lái
xǐ huān nǐ xiǎng ài nǐ xiǎng shuō zhēn xīn huà
wŏ zhǐ yŏu shēn qíng
dàn qǐng nǐ shōu xià
wŏ zhǐ yŏu chī kuáng
què bù dŏng de fāng fǎ
bǎ wŏ xīn lǐ xiǎng de huái lǐ
yŏu de qīng chŭ ràng nǐ kàn ba
xǐ huān nǐ xiǎng ài nǐ xiǎng shuō zhēn xīn huà
lù yĕ xŭ hái cháng
dàn ài yǐ chū fā
wŏ yĕ xŭ tài shǎ
què yī diǎn yĕ bù jiǎ
huì yŏng yuǎn tǐ tiē yŏng yuǎn shŏu yuē
nǐ kĕn ràng wŏ ài nǐ ma
(back to the first line)
xǐ huān nǐ xiǎng ài nǐ xiǎng shuō zhēn xīn huà
lù yĕ xŭ hái cháng
dàn ài yǐ chū fā
wŏ yĕ xŭ tài shǎ
què yī diǎn yĕ bù jiǎ
xiǎng kàn zhe nǐ nào péi zhù nǐ xiào
ràng wŏ ài nǐ ba
(arti)
di pagi buta bangun dengan tubuh berlumuran cat
dan kuas cat masih saya genggam dengan erat
sinar matahari menyinari dirimu dengan sangat tenang
di atas kanvas lukisan melihat aku tersenyum
hampir setiap hari bermimpi berjalan dengan dirimu sambil bercerita
ada semacam perasaan senang dan bahagia
saya merasa sudah menerima sesuatu
tetapi belum memilikinya
kadang2 membiarkan perasaan berlalu
sangat tersentuh...
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Pengembangan DhammaCitta / udah bisa posting youtube di dalam thread.. yay!
« on: 24 September 2008, 04:26:04 PM »
kabar gembira.. 
sekarang udah bisa posting youtube di dalam thread seperti di bawah ini:
caranya seperti memasukkan image, bedanya pakai: [ youtube ] [ /youtube ]
atau klik icon youtube di kiri atas di bawah icon Bold
sekarang udah bisa posting youtube di dalam thread seperti di bawah ini:
caranya seperti memasukkan image, bedanya pakai: [ youtube ] [ /youtube ]
atau klik icon youtube di kiri atas di bawah icon Bold
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Kafe Jongkok / [pics] Japanese photographers caught in action..
« on: 24 September 2008, 02:17:09 PM »
gayanya lebih keren yang motret daripada yang dipotret.. 
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Kafe Jongkok / [pics] Kisah nyata di Vietnam yang lucu2..
« on: 20 September 2008, 01:01:31 AM »
penumpang gelap atau ... ?
latihan akrobat
angkutan massal
overloaded!!!
gara2 helm-nya dipinjem sama cici ngga bilang2, aye pake baskom deh..
mobil 2 roda dan 3 roda
biar seimbang, harus bonceng 2 orang nih
aye curiga, jangan2 orang Vietnam ini masih ada keturunan Padang..
speechless..
latihan akrobat
angkutan massal
overloaded!!!
gara2 helm-nya dipinjem sama cici ngga bilang2, aye pake baskom deh..
mobil 2 roda dan 3 roda
biar seimbang, harus bonceng 2 orang nih
aye curiga, jangan2 orang Vietnam ini masih ada keturunan Padang..
speechless..
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Kafe Jongkok / Seandainya Cinta Laura jadi Gubernur DKI Jakarta
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